Tips on Harnessing FEARS & Developing Self-Confidence

1- The Fear of Failure

The fear of failure is the single greatest obstacle to success in adult life. Taken to its extreme, we become totally pre-occupied with not making a mistake, with seeking approval for security above all other considerations. The experience of the fear of failure is in the words of "I can't", "I can't." We feel it in the front of the body, starting at the solar plexus and moving up to the rapid beating of the heart, rapid breathing and a tight throat. We also experience this fear in the bladder and in the irresistible need to run to the bathroom.

2- The Fear of Rejection

The second major fear that interferes with performance and inhibits expression, is the fear of rejection. We learn this when our parents make their love conditional upon our behavior. If we do what pleases them, they give us love and approval. If we do something they don't like, they withdraw their love and approval-which we interpret as rejection.

The Roots of Type A Behavior

As adults, people raised with conditional love become preoccupied with the opinions of others. Many men develop Type A behavior which is characterized by hostility, suspicion and an obsession with performance to some undetermined high standard. This is expressed in the attitude of "I have to, I have to," and is associated with the feeling that "I have to work harder and accomplish more in order to please the boss" who has become a surrogate parent.


The Most Common Trap

More than 99 percent of adults experience both these fears of failure and rejection. They are caught in the trap of feeling, "I can't, but "I have to," "I have to," but "I can't."

The Key to Peak Performance

The antidote to these fears is the development of courage, character and self-esteem. The opposite of fear is actually love, self-love and self-respect. Acting with courage in a fearful situation is simply a technique that boosts our regard for ourselves to such a degree that our fears subside and lose their ability to effect our behavior and our decisions.

TO DO:

Here are two things you can do to increase your self-esteem and self-confidence and overcome your fears.

First, realize and accept that you can do anything you put your mind to. Repeat the words, "I can do it! I can do it!" whenever you feel afraid for any reason.

Second, continually think of yourself as a valuable and important person and remember that temporary failure is the way you learn how to succeed.

Imagine becoming unstoppable in everything you do

Once I teach you how to capitalize on your strengths and build your self-confidence, you will find success at anything you do. When you have systematic control of your conscious mind, you will become fearless at your work and in your personal life.

More on these topics of importance can be read on BRIAN TRACY'S website.

How To Improve or Change Your Life With Forgiveness.

Do you really want to hang on to hate and anger? Here's how to let go and be at peace.
By Jacques Girard, Ph.D. (Inspired by an article By Sandy Andrew)

Have you ever experienced an event in your life that you can’t seem to forget? It agitates and angers you when you recall and dwell on the memory. Perhaps someone, or a group did one of the following to you--stole from you, misled or cheated you, even abused or lied to or about you. And you want to get back at them—period! You can’t seem to get it out of your mind...

If anger and hate are rising within you whenever you think of what was done to you--stop and ask yourself: "Do I really want to forget the event? Or is it possible that I enjoy my thoughts of anger, hate, and revenge?"


The Choice of Revenge or Forgiveness

Fear, anger, hate, and revenge are the most destructive forms of energy that a person can experience. These emotions can dominate your thinking and can lead you to become unhappy, nervous, agitated, depressed, and commit negative acts.

And if you commit a negative act, you in turn will become part of that negative cycle. What goes around comes around, no matter who you are. We see this time and time again in the news. By giving in to your fear, anger, and hate, you ultimately will be no different from those who wronged you in the first place. Worst of all, the poisonous negative feelings will soon begin to affect you, your mental and physical health.

Begin your day by painting your dreams

By allowing yourself to forgive the person or group, you may find yourself in a more peaceful and content state of mind. When you let go of the need for revenge, which is fed by your hate and anger, you will naturally start focusing on the constructive things in life that truly matter to you, and bring you a sense of peace and fulfillment.

In every instance, you have a choice of responses:

* negative or positive
* destructive or non-destructive
* irrational or logical
* vengeful or forgiving
* acidic of Chasidic

There may be times in your life when you have to defend yourself, your family, or even your country. But apart from these exceptional situations (and even then), the choice is yours. Your life can be positively radiant and fulfilling, or it can become depressingly dissatisfying, unhappy, negative and hateful.

How to Forgive

Most of us have trouble with the concept of letting go of anger toward someone who has wronged us. The problem is that we can become so entrenched in our own viewpoint, we simply can’t picture thinking or behaving differently. It is important to acknowledge the difference between denial, escapism, cowardice, non-assertiveness and Forgiveness.

Here are ten ways to help you move towards contentment and forgiveness in your life and move away from toxic emotions. Go to a quiet place, preferably in your home, then relax for about 5-10 minutes and go through the following steps in your mind.

1. Calm your emotions through deep breathing, self-hypnosis, yoga.
2. Analyze the event from a logical, objective perspective.
3. Seek the truth and all the facts.
4. Acknowledge the facts of what actually happened.
5. Know that you were mistreated, but did not mistreat in return.
6. Decide that you shall not become a victim or martyr.
7. Let the memory fade into history.
8. Let go of the anger and hateful energy that surrounds you.
9. Focus your thoughts on those who care about you in life.
10. Focus your thoughts on the things and people in life that you like or love.

By performing these simple mental exercises on a daily basis, you should gradually notice that you feel more content and at peace with yourself. By focusing on the positive suggestions above, and more of your own choice, you will attract positive energies, mental, spiritual and physical health into your life…and This Is Definitely So!

With Love from,

Jacques

Aspire To Inspire before you Expire...

My Good Friends,

The following is dedicated to LAUGHTER and its Magic Powers to produce pain killing endorphins, melt fat and calories, heal and make us happier, and more Successful! I Give You LAUGHTER!

Your Friend,

Jacques

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My wife and I had words,
But I didn't get to use mine.
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Frustration is trying to find your glasses without your glasses.
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Blessed are those who can give without remembering
And take without forgetting.
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The irony of life is that, by the time you're old enough to know your way around, you're not going anywhere.
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God made man before woman so as to give him time to think of an answer for her first question.
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I was always taught to respect my elders,
But it keeps getting harder to find one.
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Every morning is the dawn of a new error.
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The quote of the month is by Jay Leno:

"With hurricanes, tornados, fires out of control, mud slides, flooding, severe thunderstorms tearing up the country from one end to another, and with the threat of bird flu and terrorist attacks, "Are we sure this is a good time to take God out of the Pledge of Allegiance?"

For those that prefer to think that God is not watching over us...go ahead and delete this...
For the rest of us, pass this on...
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Government True-isms

I contend that for a nation to try to tax itself into prosperity is like a man standing in a bucket and trying to lift himself up by the handle.
(Winston Churchill)

A government which robs Peter to pay Paul can always depend on the support of Paul.
(George Bernard Shaw)

Democracy must be something more than two wolves and a sheep voting on what to have for dinner.
(James Bovard, Civil Libertarian - 1994)

Foreign aid might be defined as a transfer of money from poor people in rich countries to rich people in poor countries.
(Douglas Casey, Classmate of Bill Clinton at Georgetown University)

Giving money and power to government is like giving whiskey and car keys to teenage boys.
(P.J. O'Rourke, Civil Libertarian)

Government is the great fiction, through which everybody endeavors to live at the expense of everybody else.
(Frederic Bastiat, French Economist - 1801-1850)

Government's view of the economy could be summed up in a few short phrases:
If it moves, tax it.
If it keeps moving, regulate it.
And if it stops moving, subsidize it.
(Ronald Reagan -1986)

I don't make jokes. I just watch the government and report the facts.
(Will Rogers)

If you think health care is expensive now, wait until you see what it costs when it's free!
(P.J. O'Rourke)

In general, the art of government consists of taking as much money as possible from one party of the citizens to give to the other.
(Voltaire -1764)

No man's life, liberty, or property is safe while the legislature is in session (Mark Twain -1866)

Talk is cheap...except when Congress does it.
(Unknown)

The government is like a baby's alimentary canal, with a happy appetite at one end and no responsibility at the other.
(Ronald Reagan)

The inherent vice of capitalism is the unequal sharing of the blessings.
The inherent blessing of socialism is the equal sharing of misery. (Winston Churchill)

The only difference between a tax man and a taxidermist is that the taxidermist leaves the skin.
(Mark Twain)

There is no distinctly Native American criminal class...save Congress.
(Mark Twain)

What this country needs are more unemployed politicians.
(Edward Langley, Artist - 1928 -1995)

A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
(Thomas Jefferson)

Blood type and Rh - How many people have it?

O +
40 %

O -
7 %

A +
34 %

A -
6 %

B +
8 %

B -
1 %

AB +
3 %

AB -
1 %

Does Your Blood Type Reveal Your Personality?

According to a Japanese institute that does research on blood types, there are certain personality traits that seem to match up with certain blood types. How do you rate?

TYPE O

You want to be a leader, and when you see something you want, you keep striving until you achieve your goal You are a trend-setter, loyal, passionate, and self-confident. Your weaknesses include vanity and jealously and a tendency to be too competitive.

TYPE A

You like harmony, peace and organization. You work well with others, and are sensitive, patient and affectionate Among your weaknesses are stubbornness and an inability to relax.

TYPE B

You're a rugged individualist, who's straightforward and likes to do things your own way. Creative and flexible, you adapt easily to any situation. But your insistence on being independent can sometimes go too far and become a weakness.

TYPE AB

Cool and controlled, you're generally well liked and always put people at ease. You're a natural entertainer who's tactful and fair. But you're standoffish, blunt, and have difficulty making decisions.

Benefits of Consuming Fruits and Vegetables

Apples

Protects your heart
prevents constipation
Blocks diarrhea
Improves lung capacity
Cushions joints


Apricots

Combats cancer
Controls blood pressure
Saves your eyesight
Shields against Alzheimer's
Slows aging process


Artichokes

Aids digestion
Lowers cholesterol
Protects your heart
Stabilizes blood sugar
Guards against liver disease


Avocados

Battles diabetes
Lowers cholesterol
Helps stops strokes
Controls blood pressure
Smoothes skin


Bananas

Protects your heart
Quiets a cough
Strengthens bones
Controls blood pressure
Blocks diarrhea


Beans

Prevents constipation
Helps hemorrhoids
Lowers cholesterol
Combats cancer
Stabilizes blood sugar


Beets

Controls blood pressure
Combats cancer
Strengthens bones
Protects your heart
Aids weight loss


Blueberries

Combats cancer
Protects your heart
Stabilizes blood sugar
Boosts memory
Prevents constipation


Broccoli

Strengthens bones
Saves eyesight
Combats cancer
Protects your heart
Controls blood pressure


Cabbage

Combats cancer
Prevents constipation
Promotes weight loss
Protects your heart
Helps hemorrhoids


Cantaloupe

Saves eyesight
Controls blood pressure
Lowers cholesterol
Combats cancer
Supports immune system


Carrots

Saves eyesight
Protects your heart
Prevents constipation
Combats cancer
Promotes weight loss

Get Juiced with cocktails for HEALTH

Carrot + Ginger + Apple - Boost and cleanse our system.



Apple + Cucumber + Celery - Prevent cancer, reduce cholesterol, and improve stomach upset and headache.



Tomato + Carrot + Apple - Improve skin complexion and bad breath.



Bitter gourd + Apple + Milk - Avoid bad breath and reduce internal body heat.



Orange + Ginger + Cucumber - Improve Skin texture and moisture and reduce body heat.



Pineapple + Apple + Watermelon - To dispel excess salts, nourishes the bladder and kidney.



Apple + Cucumber + Kiwi - To improve skin complexion.



Pear & Banana - regulates sugar content.



Carrot + Apple + Pear + Mango - Clear body heat, counteracts toxicity, decreased blood pressure and fight oxidization .



Honeydew + Grape + Watermelon + Milk - Rich in vitamin C + Vitamin B2 that increase cell activity and strengthen body immunity.



Papaya + Pineapple + Milk - Rich in vitamin C, E, Iron. Improve skin complexion and metabolism.



Banana + Pineapple + Milk - Rich in vitamin with nutritious and prevent constipation.

A Votre Bonne SANTE! (To Your Good HEALTH!)

Jacques

Sidestep ‘Spouse Diabetes’ and Noah's Wisdom

Research shows that spouses of people with type 2 diabetes are more than twice as likely to develop it too. Couples often share risk factors for developing diabetes, such as eating and exercise habits. Reduce your risk by exercising regularly, eating a healthy breakfast to help reduce the risk of insulin resistance syndrome—which often precedes diabetes and having a doctor screen you for the disease.

As we shall see in many areas of this expose..the more we hear, read, watch the various advice, strict ‘dos and don’ts’ of the ‘Experts’…and then the embarrassed ‘revised’ updates…the more we may relax, realizing that a box of Kosher salt would help us take what they say..one grain at a time… …An anonymous contributor sent me the following gems of wisdom inspired by …

Noah's Wisdom...

Everything I need to know, I learned from Noah's Ark...

ONE: Don't miss the boat.

TWO: Remember that we are all in the same boat.

THREE: Plan ahead. It wasn't raining when Noah built the Ark.

FOUR: Stay fit. When you're 60 years old, someone may ask you to do something really big.

FIVE: Don't listen to critics; just get on with the job that needs to be done.

SIX: Build your future on high ground.

SEVEN: For safety's sake, travel in pairs.

EIGHT: Speed isn't always an advantage. The snails were on board with the cheetahs.

NINE: When you're stressed, float awhile.

TEN: Remember, the Ark was built by amateurs; the Titanic by professionals. :o)


(Jacques' Note:) How interesting that I am not alone when it comes to being skeptical and selective about the "sound advice" of critics and professionals (as mentioned above in # FIVE and TEN)...Have a Great weekend!